Anonymous asked: you seem at least online to be comfortable with your curves..how did you get to that point?
well, it was a long process. i had to first get comfortable with myself as a person before i could realize that 1) the world’s standard of beauty does not define my body, and 2) my body—whether beautiful or not—does not define ME.
then, i understood that this is the one and only body that i have to live in, and it’s never going to be perfect. even if i lost the weight to please others, i would just find something new to hate: my body hair, my narrow hips, my stretch marks. before long i started to realize that these things are all a part of me. and the sum of the parts is pretty cool.
and finally, i decided that i deserved respect. if i wasn’t okay with other people putting me down for my weight, why should i do it to myself? it didn’t make any sense. i needed to start treating myself the way i would want others to treat me. so i started complimenting myself, and buying myself nice things because i deserve them, and getting dressed up just to make myself feel good.
of course it’s an uphill battle and there’s always bad days, even now. but in the end i make it through, because i know now that existence is a powerful thing and it’s stupid to let a number on a scale hold me back from that power.
this was a nice question, so thanks for that. if you were asking because you want to apply my answer to yourself….good luck. just remember that you rule your body, it doesn’t rule you.